
A couple weeks ago, I stood in the deli section of the grocery store between the hot dogs and the fancy cheese and wondered how women do it. There I was, tired from only a job and a zumba class, in the midst of a complete “what’s for dinner” meltdown. I didn’t have a baby balanced on my hip or some crazy stressful captain-of-industry job or only four hours of sleep under my belt. I suddenly started freaking about the future: How am I going to do this when it gets harder?
Which, when you’re trying to figure out what to make for dinner, is a little beside the point. When I brought the issue up with a friend later, she also tried to bring me back to the present moment: maybe by the time I have a baby, I’ll have figured a few things out. But in the meantime, it’s not something I need to worry about.
“Are you sure? If I don’t worry about it now, how can I be certain I’ll be prepared when the time comes?” I was kidding. Kind of.
One thing I’ve learned in the past couple weeks: right now I cannot manage the end-of-day pop into the grocery store. By then, my brain is too fried, my reserves of inspiration too depleted to whip up something wondrous. I am learning instead to make lists during the weekend when time is on my side. Yes, I’d like to make those muffins this week. Yes, that recipe looks like a perfect weeknight dinner! In that way, the meals come together without deli aisle breakdowns.
Some people, it seems to me, are just tough; their resiliency weathers the demands of daily life. Others of us, perhaps because we have high hopes for what our quality-of-life should feel like or simply because we don’t have the same stamina, get tripped up on these details. How do people make dinner every night? How do they access calm throughout the work day? How do they manage to look cute, day after day, in near-arctic temperatures? These are some of the things I find myself continually obsessed with–how people manage to get through the ordinary, uninspired aspects of life with panache. In other words, how to bring delight into the space of a day that could just as easily be filled with drudgery.
One very unromantic thing I feel I’ve learned this year: it’s about systems (I cite my winter uniform). Maybe I just need a stack of favorite weeknight recipes: easy to prepare, easy on the wallet. If I could pinpoint several favorites that could be trotted out on nights of low-inspiration and low-energy, maybe dinner wouldn’t be such a trial.
How do you do this? Do you have tried-and-trues that you always have the ingredients for in the kitchen, or are you still stuck in the day-in, day-out “what’s for dinner” spiral?
One new favorite: this broccoli. I’ve made other versions of the broccoli+garlic+crushed red pepper but never have the results been as lovely as this. A few tricks of technique (parboiling the broccoli, barely stirring it in the sauté pan, allowing it to brown) turned this into a recipe I’ll certainly return to again and again. If you can believe it, it was actually a bit of heaven with a bowl of brown rice, as ascetic as that sounds. You never know what will end up being a delight, now do you?
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