Living a Charmed Life
Everything about the principles Victoria Moran lays out for charmed living I find utterly delectable and so right. She is a proponent of pleasure, luxurious self-care, and the power of positive female relationships. But she is also an advocate of maxims that don’t come quite as naturally to me — waking up early, restraint, moderation and self-discipline, and tithing. Her vision of how to live a charmed life is so sound and so doable — and she packages her suggestions in a down-to-earth, personal, non-cheesy way. In short, I think she’s grand.
I thought I would share an excerpt from her new book Living a Charmed Life. I suggest you check it out from the library or get a copy for yourself, though. It’s the perfect volume to keep on your bedside table and read before you fall asleep each night or spring out of bed in the morning. At the very least, this passage is something to think about over the weekend:
Make life-charming decisions
If you’re serious about this charmed-life business, you must make certain decisions. I’ll list them here like a quiz in a magazine: which ones can you check off right now, and which ones have you yet to make?
I’ve decided to:
See life as a magnificent adventure. If you see it as anything less than this, it will be less than this, and that’s too bad.
Make my mark. We won’t all be known in the eyes of the world, but we’ll all know what we did with our lives. When you decide to make your mark you embark on the road to fulfilling your unique destiny.
Take risks. Go ahead and go for it. Somebody with catch you.
Be disciplined. Lazy people don’t live charmed lives. Know what you need to do today and do it. No excuses.
Become a seeker. You’re practical, ambitious, and have both feet firmly on the ground. Excellent. But without looking into the philosophical and mystical underpinnings of all that is, you miss out on the grand and the glorious.
Live in the biggest possible world. Travel. Get to know people from many different places. Read the literature and history of other cultures. The bigger your world, the richer your life.
Care profoundly. To help the environment, we want a smaller carbon footprint, and to help others, a bigger caring footprint. In practical life, this means seeing things through others’ eyes, sharing resources, and shopping with conscience–asking, Where does this come from? Who made it? What is its history?
Listen to my instincts. That’s why you have them. They’re dependable. Practice inner listening. Until you know what’s what, run your intuitive promptings past a trustworthy confidante who’ll tell you the difference between wishful thinking and the wisest counsel you’ll ever receive.
Appreciate everything. It’s one thing to be grateful for the good stuff and that’s a fine place to start. For an exceptional life however, you’ll want to be grateful for everything: the hard lessons, the gray days, the detours that looked as if they were going nowhere but ended up taking you precisely where you needed to be.
Be in this for the long haul. You’re aiming for a charmed life, not just the occasional good day. You’re going to adopt certain attitudes and practices and use them for as long as they benefit you, even if that’s forever.
–Excerpted from Victoria Moran’s Living a Charmed Life.